How Successful Co-Parenting changed our family dynamics into a harmonious life.
Growing up I was confronted with situations no child should have to deal with. At 16 years old I had to go before a judge and choose between my mother and father. Sadly neither one was an ideal choice. My journey started then with a “Conflict of Loyality”.
In my late 20s, I became a bonus (step) parent to a 3 year old boy in a Co-Parenting arrangement between my husband and his former spouse. I became a Bonus (Step) Parent which was unknown territory in those days.
We all want to be the hero or heroine of our own story; Few of us get there. Through hard work, determination and passion I made it. I can teach you exactly how I did this and the tools and strategies I used.
Adjusting to the new dynamics of Co-Parenting and Stepparenting is an emotional roller coaster of high hopes and dismal disappointment for everyone involved. Establishing a new set of rules and creating the best possible scenario for the children is a challenging imperative.
Working with a Co-parenting coach is a great place to start. A Co-parenting coach will help you unveil underlying feelings and emotions. Armed with this new knowledge, the next step is to forge new habits, to have different conversations and to establish new rules of engagement. That’s where I guide and help parents get rapid and permanent results.
Having to heal the battle wounds of my own story, I vowed to give my bonus (step) son a positive and peaceful childhood experience; one where all of us would communicate respectfully to create a positive experience that would empower my bonus (step) son. I made it my mission to love and care for him as if he were my own. My mantra became “What is the best interest of my child?” My bonus (step) son is in his 30’s and also a bonus (step) and bio-dad who practises conscious communication with his wife’s former spouse, creating a positive, peaceful and happy blended family always in the best interest of their children.
In the midst of all of this, I am now a NANA to my bonus (step) son’s children. These children are so blessed to have so many Nanas, Grandpas, Bonus (step) moms and Bonus (step) dads to love them all in harmony.
It’s all about love, being loved and sharing love and making our children understand how much they matter. We need to be our children’s best role models.