Children want to be seen and heard. To see them is to recognize them as someone similar to you, which means more than seeing them physically. Take a loving look inside your children with understanding, acceptance, and connection. Children see half of mom and half of dad inside them. If you dislike part of the other parent, your child feels that energy.

The sooner co-parents recognize the problem and better understand their co-parenting role, the sooner they can start working together as a team. I often touch on this point, as it is a fundamental step towards being a “present” co-parent and working towards harmonious co-parenting. That is the main goal both co-parents need to focus on. It can also provide a solid foundation and a safe environment, which creates a healthier bond with everyone in the mix.

Remember that your marriage has ended, but your parenting role continues.

Divorced parents must look through a new lens to stay in the present moment and remain loving and peaceful through this immense family change.

Co-parents can become skillful in sharing parenting time. The key is to develop new ways of performing their co-parenting roles jointly with patience and understanding when it relates only to their children. This will empower the parent to control and let go of unnecessary emotions and ego.

If you feel you are still attached to your negative emotions and ego towards the other parent, this is the first sign of a setback indicating you both still have the mindset of spouse-partners. Skip the blame game. A shift in mindset and perspective is the way to move forward. Both parents must adopt a parenting mindset to appreciate each other’s involvement and share responsibilities equally for their children’s best interests.

Understanding how to become a co-parent after divorce and remaining in the present moment throughout the change will help your family achieve outstanding outcomes. It does create a healthy ripple effect. This is worth all your efforts. Co-parents need to embark on their new quest and be willing to accept where they are now with an optimistic attitude.

Simply stop comparing yourself, and have faith that it will get better.  Children are always watching their parents. You are admired and respected for your physical and emotional strength, and it’s time for you to take notice of your worth. Stay in your lane. End the struggle.

I am Anna Giannone, a first-person advocate and founder of Co-parenting in Harmony. Certified Master Coach Practitioner – Co-parenting Coach. I guide divorced parents to navigate the rugged terrain of co-parenting. If you’re ready to take the first step toward working with me as your Co-parenting coach send me an email to schedule.   www.annagiannone.com